Many men keep past abuse secret for life

I was pleased to see the recent Creating Community article about men seeking therapy for life issues that may be troublesome (Herald, Nov. 28). The website,, suggested in the article is a wonderful resource that is chock-full of good information and referrals for men seeking positive life change.

According to the Colorado Health Information Data Set for 2011 there were 910 reported suicide deaths in Colorado, and 44 percent of those deaths were men aged 25 to 54. Many men find it difficult to reach out when life challenges become larger than life.

A secret source of shame for many men is a history of child sexual assault. National statistics suggest that 1 in 6 men are sexually assaulted at some time in their life. Many of these men take their secret to the grave without ever seeking assistance in understanding, and managing, the aftermath of the experience. Understanding the effects of trauma on the brain, effectively coping with strong emotions and learning the mechanics of developing healthy relationships can make a significant difference in quality of life for men who are carrying the burden of sexual assault. The secret is often kept and never shared with others.

Sexual Assault Services Organization is sponsoring a 12-week education and support group for men of all ages who are interested in learning more about the trauma that results from their childhood sexual assault, how to manage the fallout of this trauma, and also to support and help other men who have had similar experiences.

The group, which is completely confidential, will begin in late December and is free.

For more information or to register for the group, please call me directly at 946-6465.

Linda Lute